Consultant Feedback

Twitch and rolling in both eyes

Child displays anxiety and developed a twitch in both eyes as well as constant rolling of the eyes. Child spends 10 nights with biological mum and only 4 days with her father, we decided to start The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®, a test challenge to see if and what time span we may see results with the family dynamics being separate, mother not doing SleepTalk® with child.

Started child on Level 1 SleepTalk® only with father 4 nights in every two weeks, amazing results within the next fortnight, then the following fortnight after that the child has stopped the eye rolling and twitch has ceased, child is doing fabulous at school and is 18 months – 2 years above her school peers in school work.

Child is relaxed and comfortable and deals with mothers outbursts more easily and tends not to take on board the negativity from mother. Child is content and feels centred.

I was truly amazed how quickly we saw results and overwhelmed to share with others about The Goulding Process – SleepTalk®, this statement above shows with how little time you may have, it will make an impact on the child’s life and also sends back from the child to the resistant parent to level out too. We continue to work with this young girl and her brother and their amazing dad, watching them grow into a stronger, confident family with true unconditional love that surrounds them is magic. Thank you SleepTalk® – DAD is truly grateful. Kind regards.

SleepTalk® Intern – 2016

 


Pooing Issue

Interns Report: Now aged 3, and after 6 months of using the ‘Foundation Statements’, … is regularly using the toilet, he is much more independent. He enjoys going to school 3 days a week at first, before going full time. His teacher is reporting that ….. is a highly sociable boy who takes initiatives and among the first kids to volunteer to help if asked. Parents are reporting a tremendous improvement in their family life since the issue has been solved. They are much more productive at work and are happy the little one is now spending his days with other children. They are not planning to stop SleepTalk anytime soon.

Mother’s testimonial: “At first, I confess I did not believe that few words read to a sleeping child would make such a dramatic change in our boy’s life. For the first couple of nights, it would be only my husband who would read the statement not me. Later I decided to join when I read more about the successful stories about SleepTalk®. After few weeks I started noticing that my son looked much more relaxed and his appetite was improving, I had more faith in the process. I am so grateful for being introduced to this magical, yet easy process. Our boy is finally a happy, healthy and confident child thanks to SleepTalk®.”

SleepTalk® Consultant – Dubai 2016

 


We proved everyone wrong

Speech Problems

Hi Nicole back when I first started SleepTalk training I began with my own children, one of which who was attending speech and we were told that her speech problem was severe and that we would have limited benefits and it would be an ongoing long term issue. Well we proved everyone wrong with SleepTalk and lots of hands on work with her she is absolutely fine. Within 6-12 months you would not even know that she had a speech problem.  Yes great benefits.

2013 – Consultant – Michelle Clarkson – Qld.


Happy at a quick result

“Hey Donna, it’s ‘K’. Thought I’d give you an ‘A’ update. She’s going great! She gave a little wave during the talk last night. So cute. She is now very happy in the mornings and a lot less argumentative. I can’t thank you enough for this process and we are all looking forward to seeing more positive changes in our little girl.”

Also, on the first morning after starting SleepTalk, the Mum shared that ‘A’ woke more relaxed and happier than normal. She was so happy at that quick result. I’ll add that Mum had zero expectations. She was in the mode of ‘if it works … great! and if it doesn’t well we’re no worse off.’ So this response from her is awesome.

Cheers & thanks for creating this great process for children and their families – awesome!

3013 – Donna Flockhart – Consultant in Training


Gave me the confidence to believe in myself

I wanted to say thanks again, the course was fascinating and I can’t put my training manual down! I want to learn as much as I can about Sleeptalk. It was a little daunting at first when I saw the wealth of experience around the room but you made me feel like I was just as important which gave me the confidence to believe in myself.

As you may notice by the time I am up at the crack of dawn, I have my first consultation at 9.00am with a family in desperate need of help to which i am very glad to be able to share my knowledge of Sleeptalk.

Look forward to feeding back soon. Regards

2013 – Claire Bossons – Consultant in Training UK


My Personal Story with SleepTalk

Severe Anger and Rage

Being a Clinical Hypnotherapist I am very aware of how the mind works. How we see the world around us very much comes from our own system of belief, it is the foundation of our subconscious mind.

In Clinical Hypnotherapy we work with older children and adults who want to change their life for the better, whether that be relieving anxiety, gain more self-confidence, self-esteem or to give up habits that have become undesirable.

So what about the younger kids, as a mum of a 4 year old son who had some really severe behaviours I was really frustrated, I knew that if only I could actually work with him on a subconscious level I might be able to effect a change, but he is just too young for hypnotherapy. So much to my frustration I had him at Doctors, Paedatricians, Psychologists, we even had to have him assessed at his day care Centre because his behaviour had escalated to the point where they didn’t know what to do with him either. All of these things left us with no answers no results and even more frustration. We went through the stage of looking at if he had ADD, ADHD, Autism, Aspergers and Oppositional Defiance Disorder. What on earth is wrong with our child, my husband and I were at our wits end and just didn’t know what to do with him.

So what kind of behaviour issues did he have I hear you ask, especially if the above is sounding very familiar to you. He had what I can only describe as severe anger and rage, he would throw himself on the floor scream, cry, punch, kick, bite, hair pull, he would head butt the walls, floors, concrete, glass doors, windows, desks whatever happened to be close to him at the time of the explosion of anger. He started to withdraw, his affection disappeared he would defy us in every way possible, just getting him dressed in the morning could turn into a 30-40min war with him running around the house in circles screaming at the top of his lungs.

So by now you might be thinking, they didn’t discipline him, let me tell you, my husband and I were both on the same page, we created very strong boundaries for our son, we did all the behaviour management techniques out there, we did the naughty corner, the sending to the bedroom, sitting on a chair every time out technique there was, we did charts, rewards, treats, we tried yelling, screaming then quiet voice, time in (where I would literally hug him and try and calm him down), we used distraction techniques, we tried talking to him about his behaviour and everything else that we read, got advised to try by all the Dr’s, Peadatricians & Psychologists.

My beautiful little boy had turned into a child who we just couldn’t reach and that’s when I found SleepTalk.

I decided to take the course to become a consultant as I had heard some fabulous things about the process and to me the fact that it worked in the subconscious mind was music to my ears, finally a process where I can reach the subconscious and effect change, hey at this point I was willing to give anything ago.

What happened over the next 2 months not only shocked my husband and I but the people around us, our friends and family started noticing the HUGE and I mean HUGE change in our son.

The first change I saw happened only days after starting the SleepTalk process, he seemed much calmer and things that would normally have set off an explosion didn’t and if it did it was over in a matter of minutes, I remember one morning I had said to him “ok time to go and get dressed now” he looked at me and said “ok mum” and skipped down the hallway into his bedroom….ah hello who are you and what have you done with my son!!!!!!

The next change happened exactly 7 days after I had started the process, he came running down the hallway making squely noises as he often did when in a bad mood, I said to him “Are you going to be cranky today” he turns to me and says “No Mum I’m happy, today is a happy day”….now that might not seem all that significant but Today is a Happy Day is a statement that we use in the SleepTalk process, now of course it isn’t a statement that is ever made normally, people don’t walk around saying “Today is a Happy Day”, but my son 7 days after the SleepTalk process begun verbalising to me something he has only ever heard in the SleepTalk process at night when he is asleep. The message that was going into his sub-conscious mind at night had made its way into the conscious mind and was verbalised back to me…..OMG I was totally shocked, amazed, I can’t tell you the feelings of relief and hope I had in that moment, I dropped to my knees and hugged my son and it was in that moment that I knew that this stuff works.

It has been months and months now since we started this journey and the changes just kept coming. I now have a little boy who is happy, who runs up to us and gives hugs, says “I love you” all the time, a little boy who we can take out for the day (this was impossible before), a little boy who is learning, who is reading and paying attention when we teach him things, a little boy who is playing and making friends with other kids (instead of hitting them over the head), a little boy who is polite who uses please and thank you. Now don’t get me wrong he still has his moments but they are few and far between and are in line with any 4 years olds behaviour now, that I can cope with!!!

The change in him is unbelievable and I am so grateful to Joane who developed the SleepTalk process because I now have my beautiful little boy back and I now have the opportunity to help other parents out there that are struggling with their children too, so whether your children have huge issues or just little ones or really none at all SleepTalk is a powerful process, so powerful that this stuff should be sent home with all new mums, imagine a world full of children who know that they are loved unconditionally and who look at the world through eyes of positivity and self-belief knowing that they are good enough, that they fit in and that they are OK.

2013 – Charmaine Eykenboom – Consultant in Training Qld.


Transformed into a very confident little angel.

Sleep Disorder & Anxiety

Outwardly ‘V’ is a bubbly, chatty and very active child. However her parents have a tough time getting ‘V’ to bed, feeding is a nightmare and ‘V’ doesn’t accept other people. Her reaction is, “No, go away!”

I taught Dad and Mom the Sleep Talk (ST) process.  After one night of ST, Dad emailed, very excited to report that ‘V’ had her regular hair cut without a single of tear. As ‘V’ doesn’t take well to strangers touching her, even the same hair-dresser who has been cutting her hair all this while, is not accepted. She cries and frets at each and every hair cutting session. This time, to quote Mom: “She just sat there calmly throughout the whole time, no tears, is it a coincidence?”  I replied, “No, it’s Sleep Talk”.

The next positive incident was a follow-up x-ray session to check on the progress of her operation. ‘V’ had a fall and broke her collar-bone. The pain and trauma of strangers in white coats and covered faces makes her scream, cry and cling on to mom and dad for dear life. After about 1 week of ST, ‘V’ allowed the nurse to take her from mom’s arms, sat on the cold steel platform by herself in the dim x-ray room, and had her x-ray taken without a single tear or whimper!

Going to bed was a one to two hour ritual every night; afternoon naps were 20 -30 minutes to the max. Mom had to stay with her at kindi and friends of her parents do not have the privilege to play with or hold her. She would say, “No, go away”. Meal times are an endurance test for mom. ‘V’ will eat a little of an item, then a bite of another and another…. Proper meals with meat, vegetables and rice are rejected.  Mom was totally exhausted, physically and emotionally trying to keep up with ‘V’.

Stayed on with the Foundation Statement for 4 months, completed the 3rd “Where Now” document, and after discussing the ‘Primary area of need’, we agreed to add a support suggestion:  I advised parents to play games with ‘V’ to teach her the meaning of “safe” before using the support suggestion.

With ST, ‘V’ has now transformed into a very confident little angel who does not hesitate to apologize if she’s in the wrong. Going to bed is much easier and parents can walk out of the room after about 20 minutes. ‘V’ is willing to try more healthy new food and is also putting on some weight. She can also interact with people now and as the father puts it: “I do not have to worry about emergency calls at work from Mom or pushing the job  of getting ‘V’ to sleep to one another.  Productivity at work also increased as there is no more stress of having to rush home from the office when an “emergency” arise.

2013 – Elis Soo – Consultant – Malaysia


Yesterday he went into kinder happily, not hanging on to mum’s legs

Separation Anxiety

I have started my cases. It took a little time to get the mums to start, but all’s going well now. One little boy in particular is very interesting. He is three years old and has a history of trauma from birth, with heart defects diagnosed in utero at 32 weeks. Not sure he would survive. Caesar birth and separation from Mum when on respirator in NICU for two weeks. Open heart surgery at eight weeks. Before his birth, the parents’ marriage was already turbulent and abusive. Parents separated before his surgery. Mum has gone through very rough time. Custody hearings are still going on. Relationships still very strained between parents.

‘G’ is a lovely, bright little boy. Presenting issues for mum were sleep issues, he had severe separation anxiety at bed time and couldn’t settle alone to sleep, he had great separation anxiety at kinder hanging on to mum, and he was only opening his bowels once a week. After three days of Sleep Talk, he was going to bed easily, saying goodnight and going to sleep. His bowels opened a couple of times. He was also much happier in the mornings and less demanding on his mother.

Then a death in the family occurred and a bitter custody hearing happened at the same time. In all the chaos SleepTalk was put on the back burner.

It was time for the two week follow up two days ago. Mum was very keen to take up Sleep Talk again. She started two days ago and had a slight abreaction this time. We talked about it and she is very motivated to continue. This dear little boy is still sleeping well and yesterday he went into kinder happily, not hanging on to mum’s legs, but looking at the activities he wants to do.

2013 – Deborah Stevens  –  Consultant – Vic.


Nail Biter

Hi everyone, just wanted to share something with you all. Since the course in May I have been carrying out the process with both my boys, my eldest son Jack was a nail biter, to the point where his nails were very sore and often would bleed. Tonight driving along he said to my youngest son ” I don’t bite my nails anymore, I have no idea how I stopped but i just did”. I smiled and said that was great, I was bursting with joy! X

2013 – Claire Bossons – Consultant in Training UK


She couldn’t believe they were still asleep!

Separation Anxiety

I am delighted to be training in your SleepTalk for Children method. I was delighted to receive a phone call from my daughter this morning, she lives in the South Island and I am in Auckland saying that she had started the SleepTalk process yesterday. She has twin daughters, 2 1/2 years born 13 hours before the Christchurch earth quake at 25 weeks prem.  They both had brain bleeds due to the earthquake and ‘G’ has cerebral palsy (mild) (due to the shake) It has affected her motor skills. Recently my daughter received funding for some child care each week, to give her a break, and she is also learning special communication skills and sign language.

‘G’ is experiencing separation anxiety, and so yesterday, after trying to get hold of me but no answer, (I was at conference) she decided to use the method in their day time sleeps as they have had a virus and not sleeping well at night and in the same room. She didn’t want the risk of waking the other up. So as I said she used the method yesterday afternoon.

Last night they woke for their 10.30 pm dream feed (small stomachs as they are undersized which is normal for prems) and when her husband’s alarm went off at 6am she couldn’t believe they were still asleep! She thought she must have got up and not remembered. This was the first time that they had both slept through, and she had the luxury of lying in bed for 15 mins before her other daughter ‘O’ called.

She is normally tired was is full of beans today and so looking forward to carrying on with this process, as I know she will as she is very diligent with her daughters. I just want to thank you, even at this early stage from the bottom of my heart for developing and sharing SleepTalk for children.

2013 – Patricia Allen – Consultant in Training – NZ


Symptom Free of Ulcerative Colitis

Ulcerative Colitis

Another of my mothers told me it is the first time she has been symptom free of Ulcerative Colitis.

As I start to gather more stories I believe it will be easier to attract more parents to give this gift to themselves and their children.

Much love to you

2013 – Patricia Allen – Consultant in Training – NZ


I used to hate going to bed but now I like it

Sleeping issues

Hi Ilona, I just wanted to share something that happened earlier this evening. We are all still heavily flu infected except ‘K’ who bought it home initially.

‘P’ (my husband) was trying to die quietly on the lounge when ‘K’ thought she would go in for a cuddle. She was curled up next to him and said totally out of the blue “you know daddy, I used to hate going to bed but now I like it”.

We weren’t sure really what to do with that but just gave her a cuddle and said that’s good honey. Where did that come from? Couldn’t wait four weeks to share:) ‘P’ was totally blown away. Hope this is OK to send. ‘R’

2013 Ilonea – Consultant in Training NSW


Birth Trauma – Heart Defect

I have started my cases. It took a little time to get the mums to start, but all’s going well now.  One little boy in particular is very interesting.  He is three years old and has a history of trauma from birth, with heart defects diagnosed in utero at 32 weeks. Not sure he would survive. Caesar birth and separation from Mum when on respirator in NICU for two weeks. Open heart surgery at eight weeks. Before his birth, the parents’ marriage was already turbulent and abusive. Parents separated before his surgery. Mum has gone through very rough time. Custody hearings are still going on. Relationships still very strained between parents.

‘G’ is a lovely, bright little boy. Presenting issues for mum were sleep issues, he had severe separation anxiety at bed time and couldn’t settle alone to sleep, he had great separation anxiety at kinder hanging on to mum, and he was only opening his bowels once a week. After three days of Sleep Talk, he was going to bed easily, saying goodnight and going to sleep. His bowels opened a couple of times. He was also much happier in the mornings and less demanding on his mother.

Then a death in the family occurred and a bitter custody hearing happened at the same time. In all the chaos SleepTalk was put on the back burner.

It was time for the two week follow up two days ago. Mum was very keen to take up Sleep Talk again. She started two days ago and had a slight abreaction this time. We talked about it and she is very motivated to continue.  This dear little boy is still sleeping well and yesterday he went into kinder happily, not hanging on to mum’s legs, but looking at the activities he wants to do.

Christchurch, NZ (during the 2011 earthquake)


Positive Feedback

I wanted to say thanks again, the course was fascinating and I can’t put my training manual down! I want to learn as much as I can about SleepTalk. It was a little daunting at first when I saw the wealth of experience around the room but you made me feel like I was just as important which gave me the confidence to believe in myself. As you may notice by the time I am up at the crack of dawn, I have my first consultation at 9.00am with a family in desperate need of help to which I am very glad to be able to share my knowledge of SleepTalk.

I am also enjoying carrying out the process with both my boys. My eldest son who knows of the work I am doing said: “mummy I think I know when you have done SleepTalk on me because I wake up feeling all warm inside”. It doesn’t get better than that. xxx”

Regards – Claire Bossons – UK – 2013


Reducing Anxiety

I have recently spoken to Mum’ and she was delighted to say that her son got through the MRI procedure better than any other time. In her words, “it was amazing, he was just so calm”. She said he is continuing to do really well at kinder and is coping better socially and emotionally. Overall Mum and Dad are thrilled with the outcomes for their son and plan to continue with Sleep Talk for as long as they can.

Tanya Routley – Victorian Consultant 2013


Building Confidence

I spoke to mum on the 2nd April. After 6 weeks of the new support suggestions she and her husband are feeling very positive about the results. She said she has been consistent with both the Sleep Talk and the star chart, and she is seeing more and more occasions when ‘J’ is going off and finding something to do, without first ‘checking’ with mum or dad. He seems more confident in his own abilities and ideas. The hoarding has really settled down and he is sharing without a big fuss.

Below is an excerpt taken from an email ‘Mum’ sent to me the next day:
“This is such an AMAZING program. We can’t believe we started to see results after only a couple of weeks. It is such a lovely way to connect with your kids on so many levels. My husband and I remark to each other daily about how happy our kids are. I truly believe that I would be doing them a disservice if I didn’t practice what you taught us.”

Tanya Routley – Victorian Consultant 2013


Sibling Rivalry

After 8 weeks of using SleepTalk every night, I met with ‘R’ again and she had observed several changes (see assessment #2 below). She noted that the kids were certainly playing much better together and their general interaction had improved. (‘R’ is also doing Sleep Talk with her daughter.) ‘M’ seemed very happy over the holidays, especially upon waking in the mornings. ‘R’ feels that ‘M’s’ confidence has started to improve, but she would really like to focus on this going forwards, particularly in regards to his swimming. She has not got her husband on board with the process yet, but she did mention that he is happy that she is doing it and he had also observed some changes in their children.


Pooing in the Toilet

Charmaine here from your Queensland class on Friday, I just wanted to let you know the most amazing thing. Friday night when I came home I typed up the new poo statement for Ethan and SleepTalk Friday night was the new version. Saturday afternoon my husband called to say that Ethan had taken himself off to the toilet and then started calling Daddy Daddy Daddy Mark when in there to see what was wrong and Ethan said “Look Dad I did a big poo in the toilet” and sure enough he had pooed in the toilet for only the 3rd time in his life, he then wouldn’t flush it cause he wanted me to see it, so mark had to take a photo of it and send it to me!!!

I am totally blown away that of only 1 night of the new SleepTalk statement he went and did a poo!!!!! Totally amazing, totally blown away on every level, I know SleepTalk is strong but after only one night after 2 years of trying to get him to sit on the toilet after all the Dr’s appointment, Paediatricians, Gastro Paediatricians and Occupational Therapist, one night of new statement and bang done.  He since has also pooed on the toilet today we think but said he flushed so will continue to monitor the progress and let you know.

Thank you so much Joane for all your help on Friday to figure this out I cannot thank you enough for this amazing system, I feel very lucky to be learning this powerful work to help so many other kids just like Ethan.  Lots of hugs

June 2013 – Queensland – Charmaine Eykenboom


 

DS – Consultant in Training May 2013

A SleepTalk consultant now based in Germany talks about her son and his issue with nailbiting and confidence.

A professional consultant / trainer based in the UK talks about his experiences with SleepTalk.

Australian SleepTalk Mum and Consultant, Nurse Educator talks about her children developing confidence through the use of SleepTalk techniques, and the improvement in their sibling rivalry issues.

Megan who is a SleepTalk Mum talks about her daughter’s issues around pooing, self-esteem and relationships.

Two parents in Australia who have used SleepTalk techniques for their daughter talk about improvements gained within two weeks.

A professional hypnotherapist and SleepTalk Consultant describes a case history dealing with a child who refused to sleep in his own bed.